Question #201 from "The Book of Questions" by Gregory Stock, PH.D.
Do you frequently find yourself - just to be polite - saying things you don't mean? For example ... when you say good-bye to someone who doesn't interest you, do you act as though you enjoyed their company?
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I have to say "NO!" for the most part. I tend to be pretty straightforward about such things. However ... there are times when a certain amount of tact is required and I try to be wise about such times!!
I try to be polite, so it may seem I am more interested in someone than I really am.
No point in being rude.
ewww Last week! Outlaws. yuck! But I was nice for my relationship sake.
Hmmmmmmmm, I try to always be polite (taught that from childhood by both grandmothers) so I probably do, but I don't say things that I do not mean. I try to find the interesting qualities in others to comment on. I would never deliberately hurt someones feelings
Like CinCin said, "there are times when a certain amount of tact is required and I try to be wise about such times".
No, I don't. hmmmm, is this why people say I'm "to the point"? I try to be polite, and act with grace and dignity, but that doesn't include lying to assuage someone else.
"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything" is the old adage that comes to mind here. As a single woman, you do occasionally run into the really sweet, timid, trying-to-be- interesting guy who you just can't bear to be anything but nice to. Like Beach Baby...I try to find something interesting about them to concentrate on...so I'm sure that does come across as more interested than I should be. There's a fine line to not lead them on...
On the other hand, there are those men whose egos are big enough to handle brutal honesty...no need to be rude...but sometimes a little jolt to their confidence level helps out the next girl!
I wouldn't say "frequently". But my Mom always taught me to try to find one nice thing in everybody. Sometimes, with some people though, it's REAL hard! And sometimes the situations calls for tact and diplomacy so I do respond in that manner. And sometimes, (albeit rarely) you just have to throw on the Stepford wife smile and say
"Why Bless your heart!" when you really mean "Bite me!" LOL
Only in a corporate setting.....and only minimally.
And I DON'T have a poker face, so you can usually tell when I'm lying my hind teeth off!!
My cardinal rule is to never intentionally hurt someone....I can usually find a way around the situation.
I think I may do it without realizing what I am doing.... but for the most part I believe in being "attracted" to interesting people who also believe me to be interesting and therefor I am really not even around that kind of situation
Nope. As my mother has told me quire often, I have no tact. If I don't like you, you'll know it. If I like you even less, I'll play with you...sort of like a cat with a small animal... Sometimes, I admit, I'm not very nice.
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